So today's dare is to get 2 sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your partner. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your partner for having this characteristic.
"Which list was easier to make?" This was really hard. I didn't think it would be but it was, especially trying to write the positive. "What did this list reveal about your thoughts?" It made me realize on paper that I'm not happy with how things are between us...even as friends..let alone anything more. "What attribute did you thank your partner for having?" I made him a card that read 'You have an amazing, wonderful smile. It's one of many things about you that I dearly love and it brightens my day by warming my heart. I cherish the moments that I 'm the reason for putting that wonderful smile upon your face which makes your eyes twinkle. Love you lots'. His reaction was interesting...he read it, set it down, played his wow game some more..then reread it, set it down again and tucked it next to him in the chair, played his game some more...then looked at it again and stuck it under his phone next to him and played his game more...then we went out to work on the hot tub and my car and he put it in his pocket, we went outside...I came inside for a set of pliers and he had put the card on the couch...then he asked me about it later when we were working on my car. He wanted to know why I had made it for him...I told him because I wanted to...because I wanted to give him a compliment (the love dare didn't say anything about the partner asking you about why you were doing these things..so I just winged it) and he paused, pondered what I had said, and then said 'oh'. Often the little things have a bigger impact than the big things because you aren't expecting them so much. When we see each other making changes if it's a big change we usually have a comment for it but if it is smaller it not only takes us longer to see it but usually makes us stop and think more. Compliments give us hope about ourselves and about/with others that we love. All of us need hope in order to be better people in whatever we do. It was hard for me to create that card and give it to him but it was the right thing to do. He gave me hope by being supportive to encourage me to seek counseling & get involved in positive things to better myself to have another shot with him relationship wise but also that we would do fun things later this spring/summer together. That card for me was my way of saying 'Thank you and I hear you...". When I made the card yesterday though I didn't know that ...24 hours later though I realize that was what I was doing.
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I started quilting again last night for the first time since November. It felt good. I have 17 blocks of 20 that I need to get done for this lap quilt that I've been working on for almost 2 years. There are 14 days until my next support group meeting and my goal is to get all 20 blocks done and sewn together so that the top is done. I think I can do it :-).
So glad today is friday. Tomorrow morning I'm checking out the women's ministry meeting at the church office. It's about "love box" donations. Which I'm guessing is probably similar to what I just did for today's love dare above. So it will be good to hear.
I'm going to try to get the fuel filter changed on my car today since I can't go anywhere without doing that unless I get a ride. Thankfully C has been available & gracious enough to take me to wherever I needed to go all week. I need to be able to drive though. Sunday need to get my taxes done. Planning to go see J&R after church. Planning on checking out the early service this time instead of the later service.
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