Upside down hearts need LOVE too

So it's Valentine's Day and yeah I saw this and it seems to fit for today. It's bright and cheery which is how I felt this morning when I got up and discovered C was home.  Hugged him for Valentine's Day. I decided to skip my run and make us waffles & bacon for breakfast. Thanks sis for the use of your waffle iron ;-)! Everything seemed to be going pretty well. We chatted like normal. I jumped in the shower and then got dressed. Came out and asked if he wanted to play cards he said sure. Gave him a foot lower leg massage of which he didn't mind at first then it seemed like he wanted me to stop so I did. Went got the cards and we played cards before he had to leave for the commissioner's meeting. No hug before he left...
Didn't do so well with the no hug thing when he left. It ended up giving me a headache that just wouldn't go away even after I got picked up for the quilt group this morning. Wasn't until about 1030 before I finally asked if anyone had a tylenol and then I also asked the pastor if he had any time this week. He said actually he had time within the next 20 minutes and there was just one person ahead of me. So I met with him, told him about what was on my mind & heart and ...yeah it was good to let stuff out ...my headache went away. He prayed about me & for C. It's so hard to do the right thing and work on yourself to change bad habits to be a better person, but also to be patient and let God work on/in that other person to change themselves but also to recognize the changes within you.
It's only day 11 but it sure feels like day 20...
Day 11-Love Cherishes
"Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies." Ephesians 5:28
Today's dare: What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, 'I cherish you' and do it with a smile.
What did you choose to show that you cherish your mate? What did you learn from this experience?
I chose to give him a foot massage this morning and at first it was ok and then later I asked if he wanted me to stop and he said yes...I learned that the power of human touch can move mountains of hurt feelings even if it only lasts a few minutes but that boundaries need to be respected. I also learned that rejection sucks and can sneak into any moment when you least expect it and if you are already vulnerable it is that much more intense. I was ok with stopping the massage but I sure had not intended to make him uncomfortable. Him not hugging me though hurt.
It's like I told pastor, sometimes the hurt from whatever form of rejection it is hurts really deep because he's my best friend and the love runs deep. It's like he is only seeing glimpses of me changing...like he doesn't see the hard work. I suppose it hasn't been long enough. I guess it takes time for God to work on something this big. Everyone I know is praying for us...including his family. It means a lot to me that so many people we know care. I believe there is hope for us.